What’s With Love Locks?

(At the NY Waterway near the Brooklyn Bridge.)

Sweethearts write their names or initials on the padlock and throw away the key to symbolize a love that “cannot be broken.”

Apparently started 100 years ago when a soldier went to war and fell in love with another woman, breaking his vow to his sweetheart at home. Since then love locks were seen as a wish, if not a promise, to keep love safely “locked.”

It has become common in the last few years specially in tourist areas, that it has been considered a form of littering and even vandalism. There is a “No Love Locks” movement in Paris and other places.

Does it work? Maybe. Not in a superstitious way but in the psychological commitment that could come from the act. Something similar to marriage vows in front of family, friends and community. But I guess just like other expressions of commitment, it really depends on how serious the commitment was in the first place — and the desire to work together to make the relationship work. That’s much harder than putting a padlock on a fence.


The Devil in the Details, the Genius in the Big Picture

Up close, Claude Monet’s painting of Water Lilies at the Museum of Modern Art (MoMA) in New York shows his perfectionism, a study of his impressionistic technique to capture color and light.


When stepping back, one sees “the illusion of an endless whole, of water without horizon or bank” that he was aiming for. His genius was creating the big picture while working on the fine details.


In contrast, Vincent Van Gogh’s Starry Night, also at the MoMA, shows the bold brush strokes that seem to be aimed at driving away the demons haunting his mind. That he was able to paint the beauty of the galaxies, the endless movement of the universe — the biggest picture of them all– is a testament to his bravery and the greatness of his genius.

















Talking About a Lifetime Plan

“Would it turn out right?
How to tell you, girl
I wanna build my world around you
Tell you that it’s true
I wanna make you understand
I’m talking about a lifetime plan”
– Little River Band, “Reminiscing”

Nothing beats the thought of committing to a marriage when it comes to thinking about the future. Even the act of proposing is fraught with suspense. This pair of adopted benches in Central Park, New York, seems to tell an on-going story. bench_8247bench_8252

The wedding itself is a joint commitment to the future.

Whether in Ghent with a horse-drawn carriage…

In Saigon…


Or a beach wedding in the Philippines at sunset…

It’s all about The Future, nothing else matters, it seems.

But it’s actually also about the present, because only when the present is full of hope and anticipation can we imagine a beautiful future.

“We can never know about the days to come
But we think about them anyway…
And tomorrow we might not be together
I’m no prophet and I don’t know nature’s ways
So I’ll try and see into your eyes right now
And stay right here ’cause these are the good old days”
– Carly Simon, “Anticipation”

And oftentimes the future we imagine is one where we can enjoy reminiscing about today, because today is what we hope will become the good old days of tomorrow.