We tend to assume that children are naturally resilient. After all, children go through a lot of “adjustments” and turn out “alright.”
In reality, resilience is a skill that has to be learned, even by children. The American Psychological Association has a guide for parents and teachers, and healthychildren.org has a set of guidelines on building resilience in children. Both mention resilience as the ability to “thrive despite challenges” and “to cope, recover from hardships, and be prepared for future challenges.”
I’m not an expert but, like everyone else, had to go through challenges and overcome them or learn from them. Actually it doesn’t end. Maybe building resilience is part of lifelong growth. What is given is that it involves dealing with adversity or stress and getting past them.
Which brings me to the tree. It endures storms, droughts, maybe even fires — and it grows a stronger trunk and branches, strong enough to carry a child learning how to deal with a possible fall.
But resilience is more than just being strong, it also is about being flexible — like the child clinging to the branch. The tree also had to bend with the wind, and grow its branches where the leaves can find the sun.
A child and a tree both have to become resilient in their own ways. That’s the law of nature, the way to survive. And children and trees have been around for a long time.